Monday, February 02, 2009

One of the most frustrating things in dealing with all this has been the idea that I did everything right, and for what? My life seems to be a series of jokes, and I just want to breathe for a minute. I don't think that's too much to ask for.

I just want a simple life. God, can't you help someone out?

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

reeeelating to that...

Me-chee said...

I can completely relate to wanting the simple life and wondering if what I am doing is really the "riht thing". I'm 28, have three kids and my husband suddenly passed away last August...

Katie said...

I am wanting an update on you. To know you are okay. Or at least surviving.

Unknown said...

as a widow also his is the time of year that we are going through crushing grief and anguish, over the loss of our spouse. During the holidays the pain of a broken heart can be enormous.
Especially since this is my "first" christmas without my Husband.

I have been told to try psychoanalysis and medication or taking an antidepressant, writing an angry letter and tearing it up, going on a shopping spree, getting a makeover, etc. Some have said try the power of positive thinking. and dont you just love this one - The most common "cure" is time. The world's focus is on feelings, but God looks at the heart. I have found that if I trust in God I can experience complete recovery because only then can I access the power of the Spirit of God who alone “heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds".

I opened my bible yesterday and God led me right to the story of Job, Job's life may be the earliest biblical record of heartbreak. In one day he lost his children, almost all worldly possessions, his health, and his means of livelihood. What was Job's response? "Then Job arose and tore his robe and fell on the ground and worshiped. And he said, ‘Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD'". Job grieved. Yet, he worshipped God and remained faithful. Although he had doubts as to God’s goodness in these terrible events, through them he grew closer to God through God’s revelation of Himself . Job learned what all believers can learn through heartbreak—God is faithful and good and trustworthy.

One might ask in a moment of despair, "He may have helped Job but does God care about me?" The answer is He absolutely does! "He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?" Romans 8:32. What a comfort to know that God "will never leave you nor forsake you". God is always near to comfort. "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction. God, who cannot lie, has promised to go through our trials with us. "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you" Isiah 43:2.

God never failed one of His people when they cried out to Him, and He will not fail the heartbroken who cries out to Him. He may not always answer exactly in the way we would like, but He answers according to His perfect will and timing and, while we are waiting for the answer, His grace is sufficient.

Finally, all of us who are enduring heartbreak must know that God loves us and that His love is unconditional. Imagine the grief God the Father endured as he witnessed the crucifixion of his Son on the cross. What amazing love! That same God is there to comfort us and restore our joy.

Anonymous said...

Your blog keeps getting better and better! Your older articles are not as good as newer ones you have a lot more creativity and originality now keep it up!

Anonymous said...

I feel the same. It is hard to say that I am a "single" mom. I would rather say "widow" just for the fact that I "DID IT RIGHT". I had a husband and a life and we had two beautiful children.
Anyway...I am truly happy to see others on here in my same situation. I will continue to read...keep it up :)
WidowWithTwoLittles!

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